I'm Your Girlfriend's Best Friend and I'm Not a Threat (Unless I Want To Be)

May 18, 2016 by Cazey Williams in Cazey's Column, life lessons, Dating, Life In Your 20's

Recently my best friend got engaged. They met overseas, so I didn't get to meet her fiancé until after he actually proposed - though I knew the ring was coming (because she believed it was coming) and I Facebook friended the guy before they were even official.

Upon meeting her betrothed, he asked how we knew each other. "From college?" he guessed. (I was slightly offended my friend hadn't briefed her beloved further.)

"No, no, we go all the way back to kindergarten," we relived our friendship. "In third grade we ran against each other for SCA secretary. Neither of us won."

Three Things a Relationship Did Not Change for Me

January 14, 2016 by astoldoverbrunch in Guest Post, Life In Your 20's, life lessons

Upon entering my sophomore year of high school, I had a hopeful vision for how that particular year would play out.

I knew it was the year I would finally, blissfully, manage to snag a boyfriend. I pictured myself walking the halls with him, laughing at something he said and tossing my perfect soft curls, my blue pastel pea coat appropriately fending off the fall chill.

First of all, I did not have soft, curly hair. I had thick, coarse hair that I can only also describe as lumpy. And I certainly did not own a blue pea coat. In fact, even if I had owned such a coat, I probably would have been too shy to wear it for fear of looking like I was trying to hard and instead settle for my usual American Eagle sweatshirt.

When Third Wheeling Gets Bumpy: Just Throw Up

December 09, 2015 by Cazey Williams in Cazey's Column, Life In Your 20's, life lessons, Humor

I have been single since seventh grade. This means when I hang out with my coupled off friends, I third wheel. This is not usually a problem unless they a.) are mushy-gushy or b.) are in a fight. Today we’re going to talk about the latter.

A few years ago I visited one of my best friends in Chicago. At least she said she lived in Chicago. She actually lived outside the city, but that’s another post. Anyhow, she was dating some doctor at the time, and she was excited for me to meet him.

10 Things to Expect When You Attend a Conservative Southern Wedding Alone

June 16, 2015 by astoldoverbrunch in Guest Post, Humor, Life In Your 20's, life lessons

1. When you first arrive, it's awkward. Where do you stand? Who do you talk to? Should you go find a seat or wander around? The only person who you know for sure will be there is the bride, and she's still in hiding at this point. Eventually you make a friend or find some people you kind of know.

2. Those people will feel sorry for you. Your high school chorus teacher will wait with you in line for punch. The dad of a kid who lived in your neighborhood will save you a seat for dinner. And you aren't even mad about being pitied, because you're too busy being grateful to be rid of the awkwardness.... Temporarily.

Nine Things Not to Say to a Gay Guy

February 10, 2015 by astoldoverbrunch in Guest Post, life lessons

By Justin Porter* *Justin Porter is today's guest blogger. Currently Justin is a senior at James Madison University. You can tweet him or like his photos at @jport93. He's especially interested if you want to offer him a job come this May. If you are interested in guest blogging for ATOB, email us at AsToldOverBrunch@gmail.com.

Hopefully at this point in 2015, almost every American has experienced their first run-in with a gay guy. Unless, of course, you don’t believe we exist, or you live under thousands of pounds of rocks.

I’m almost certain you've discovered what gay guys are like based on movies and television shows. All gay guys must be just like Neil Patrick Harris or Chris Colfer (of Glee).

So let me address some stereotypes aka what you shouldn't say to a gay man like myself: